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Condom Sense Print
Written by Karen Farris   

With skyrocketing Chlamydia and gonorrhea cases in San Diego County, public health officials decided the best solution was to give out free condoms. They set up a website and anyone wanting free condoms could ask and they’d be mailed discreetly—no questions asked. Since STDs are increasing at alarming rates, especially in 15-24 year olds, it would seem prudent to offer some common sense instead of dispensing a thin layer of latex and calling it good.

According the National Abstinence Clearinghouse,




  • Will not protect against all pregnancies.


  • Will not protect against some STDs including two incurable ones, HPV and genital herpes.


  • Condoms can break or fail. They’re not fool proof.


Sexually active teens and adults need to know that condoms will never be a reliable choice.  And worse, condoms offer no protection against broken hearts or lives. Only sexual abstinence until marriage prevents disease, and then faithfulness afterwards will help keep marriages strong.


Giving condoms away allows risky behavior to continue, but people deserve better from our tax dollars. Why not allow abstinence education in our schools, and let the students hear both sides. Freedom involves having a choice, but all too often the only choice they’re given is what kind of birth control they prefer.

Last Updated on Tuesday, 18 June 2013 06:44
Sex Isn't Everything Print
Written by Karen Farris   

Kendra loved the new apartment. Situated in a maze of several hundred units—this one was theirs alone. Her youthful dream was finally being realized. As she unpacked the stack of boxes, it was a blend of their former lives. Her boxes had clothes, dishes, and a collection of treasures stretching back to her early teens. For him, there were just the male essentials—clothes, TV, sound system, game console, and a large collection of DVDs. She shook her head at the scrappy collection of cast-off furniture crammed in their tiny living space.


They’d excitedly set up the bed first thing. Living together meant no more nights apart. She shivered with anticipation thinking about all the time they’d have with each other. As she unpacked her dishes, pots and pans, she imagined dinners prepared in the tiny kitchen and long evenings with just the two of them.


Like thousands of couples across America, they’d co-signed a lease together, but didn’t bother with the marriage certificate. Over the last fifty years, cohabitation has increased 1500%. Living together is perceived to be like training wheels on a bike. Get your balance. See how smooth the ride is. It’s the post-modern way to be protected from marital failure—kind of like a condom to prevent a divorce.


Sexually-charged couples move in together and soon discover that sex isn’t everything. Life goes on—sharing a bed doesn’t get the clothes washed, the bills paid, or resolve the questions about what’s next. Women hope for eventual permanence, while men tend to see it as a test drive. Living together means that you agree to leave the back door cracked for a quick exit.


I met Kendra about four months after her lease expired. The live-in experiment failed. Those long evenings together never brought her any closer to the future she imagined. Instead, budget bickering and his desire to go out with the guys too many nights left her alone and hurting. In the rush to live together, she’d hadn’t taken time to get to know him—besides sexually. Sex had become a band-aid covering up an infected relationship. God invented sex—for marriage. Sex can make good marriages great, and can help struggling marriages survive, but sex was never intended to help a cohabitating couple determine if they are compatible.


Since the break-up, Kendra met Jesus. Now her most important relationship is the one she has with Christ. If and when she meets someone new, she’ll be doing it God’s way—no worries about keeping the back door cracked for a quick exit. She’s not looking for a short-term lease. Instead, she’s looking for a man who’ll make a long-term commitment. Social norms may have changed, but God hasn’t. Life has few guarantees, but we only need one—God’s Word.


And Kendra is enjoying spending a lot of time reading her Bible. She figures if anyone can lead her to the right man at the right time, it’s God—and until then, she’s moving in with Him, which is exactly the right place to live.

Take Herpes Quiz Print
Written by Karen Farris   


STDs Worsen Print
Written by Karen Farris   

New reports just released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) indicate that there are 20 million new sexually transmitted infections each year. These are predominately in the 15-24 age bracket. This costs our struggling healthcare system $16 billion in direct medical costs. The most prevalent sexually transmitted infection is HPV (human papillomavirus). This is the one than can even spread just by genital touching. It causes 99% of all cervical cancers and has no cure. While it seems innocuous to some, HPV is now being blamed for an increase in mouth, throat, and anal cancers as well. According to CDC data over 110 million Americans are now living for sexual infections. Warnings won't change behavior. People must choose. Deciding to save sex for marriage is a guarantee against bringing unwanted diseases into your future. That's the best wedding present you can ever get or give.

Casual Sex Warning Print
Written by Karen Farris   

Paying for casual sex is much higher than many think. Now more than 110 million American men and women are currently infected with one or more sexually transmitted infections. Annually, new infections are at the highest levels ever: 20 million new cases.

In American dollars, this translates to a lifetime treatment cost of $16 billion—EACH YEAR. The US Center for Disease Control and Prevention focused on the eight most challenging ones:  Chlamydia, gonorrhea, hepatitis B virus (HBV) herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV-2), HIV, human papillomavrius (HPV), syphilis, and trichomoniasis.

There are not easy cures and some are incurable. Not good news for those in the 15-24 age group that constitutes the largest group getting infected. Some of these are contracted through skin-to-skin contact, meaning that actual sex isn’t required. More bad news for those erroneously thinking they’re having “safe sex”.

While just as many young men are infected as women, it’s the women who bear the greater health consequences—such as cervical cancer, pelvic inflammatory disease, and infertility. Just when young people have reached independence, sadly many of them will face lifelong diseases that make them dependent on drugs and potentially alter their future in ways they never expected when they hopped in the sack.

A decade ago, when I first began sharing STD reality on http://waitformarriage.com the stats were alarming, but lower. The upward trend is not our friend. It could very well be our demise. Some will pay attention—and for those who simply don’t care, I sense someday you will.


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